From the author: Dedicated to brides, wives and women who have lost faith. This was another victim of a love relationship...When Irina told me that her fiancé had left her and he was the second or third suitor in the last six months, it became clear to me that Irina simply did not know what kind of husband she needed. For the sake of decency, I complained that real men have died out and the global economic crisis is making itself felt. It didn’t work... I had to start from the basics. Explain that a man is also a person. And people, as you know, are bio-psycho-socio-spiritual creatures. And these: biological, mental, social and spiritual properties, qualities, characteristics and simply criteria may not coincide among people. To successfully resolve a family issue, it is useful to follow the algorithm .To begin with, it is necessary and sufficient to determine the criteria for the similarity of partners. Then, you should find out which criteria are critical, basic: without which the family is doomed. Then it is simple or even very simple - all that remains is to find a suitable and worthy groom and act. Irina has no problems with activity :)) What did we do next? 1. We found out Irina’s preferences for the physical appearance of the candidate for “hand and heart.” Having answered the question: “How should it look, sound and even feel: touch, taste and smell?”, Irina defined her criteria for physical attractiveness.2. They clarified what it should be like in mental manifestations: from behavior to character traits. To do this, Irina answered the question: “What is he like?”.3. Answering the questions: Who is he “in life”? What does he have and does? - Irina, I found out what benefits can be obtained from the socialization of my husband.4. Irina was of little interest in spirituality, but after a five-minute fantasy on the topic: what she could value or what she could spend time and money on, she decided on that too. Now, the most interesting thing. If you realize all the requirements, fantasies and dreams of Irina, then you will not find a groom in the entire Universe :)) What are the main, main, necessary and even extremely important criteria? How to determine them? This is quite simple to do, but not quick. You should make a general list of all criteria, number them and compare (make a choice) each criterion in pairs with each other. For example, choose 1 or 2, 1 or 3, etc. Then, 2 or 3, 2 or 4... All that remains is to count the total number of choices for each criterion and make a list (rating). The first 4-5, as a rule, are critical, influencing the creation of an ideal family. Finally, I explained to Irina that: 1 . The external (what surrounds us) is the result of the internal;2. In our life we ​​receive only what the unconscious considers necessary and possible; 3. Critical criteria determine the prospects of a marital relationship;4. Each person, according to his family and tribe, is endowed with freedom of choice and the will to act. Six months later, Irina had a wedding. And I wish you... Konstantin Kamyshev, consultant on achieving well-being.