From the author: It was the tenth day of the New Year. I want to have some tea and die a little... Friends, I once wrote a series of articles on the topic of overeating, referring to the physiological and psychological reasons for overeating. Impulsive, compulsive overeating and so on. Now I will talk about the reasons that lie in the area of ​​our unconscious. In the shadow area, if we take the personality structure according to K.G. Jung. What is the difference? I think that the “well-known” classified reasons for excess weight, such as “preserving virginity”, “the desire not to be attractive to men”, “eating problems” and others, belong to the area of ​​the collective unconscious, or do not fully explain the situation . The symptoms are described, but the underlying causes are left behind the scenes. Maybe that’s why, even if you are aware of your overeating style (say, compulsive), it’s quite difficult to get rid of this “bad” habit. The general “rules” for weight loss are known. More precisely, one rule. You need to burn more calories than you consume. Elementary. A problem like the one about two pipes in a swimming pool. One thing, and a big “BUT”. How difficult it is to reduce the volume and calorie content of food! Only dieters are aware of the gnawing pangs of hunger and withdrawal symptoms due to changes in hormonal levels. There is no need to be slim anymore, let me eat and get out! Right? It’s also well known that dramatic weight loss is achieved through dehydration and wasting muscle tissue. But the ghost of a chiseled, slender figure is so alluring that the girl thinks that maintaining weight will be easier than losing it. Now, if only you could gain slimness, the grass won’t even grow! By losing the muscles that burn calories, it will become very difficult to lose weight in the future. Having eliminated the fat-burning machine, how do you then process it? Exaggeratedly, once you get “fat on the bones,” what do you use to “burn” it? And yet speed of execution wins. It is justified by a burning desire to get rid of the problem, and quickly. When everything returns to the usual framework of large-sized clothing, girls look with envy at slender one-year-olds, complaining that their pasta probably lies lengthwise in their stomach, while the poor thing’s - across. And the bone is wide. And genes. By considering “genes” not only in the physiological sense of the information encoded in them, but bearing in mind that this information can also be psychological, one can make a number of discoveries about the reasons for one’s own completeness. C. G. Jung talks about the ancestral complex, implying that the genetic memory of the family is present in each of us. Now such evidence is also being received by geneticists who have just approached the threshold of the mystery of the human gene. After all, most of the secrets are kept by “sleeping”, “silent” genes. It is not a fact that they will “speak” to us personally. However, I will refer to R. Bach: “Do you really think that someone located outside your body will tell you how to live?” Undertaking a conscious immersion into the area of ​​your unconscious requires a certain amount of courage. The prize for this may be an understanding of the structure of the ancestral complex about personal relationships with food. Even a simple understanding and knowledge of the history of a kind can shed light on the reasons for obesity. A fairly common reason is the desire to remain in a full body, so as not to provoke men into dating, not to “seduce” them. Personally, this reason seems far-fetched to me, since beauty standards are changing, and Twiggy girls only became popular a hundred years ago. Before this, curvy figures were held in high esteem. Let us remember Rubens with his plump matrons, Spanish women who put pillows under their dresses to look pregnant, Russian sundresses that allow the body to fill the entire volume of a full skirt starting from the armpits. Full figures were considered beautiful. They were perceived as evidence of wealth and health. And in our time, I know several portly, laughing women who are not embarrassed by their weight, they are successfully married, and have such elegance and self-confidence that their aunts who are always losing weight would envy them. "It's better on the wavesswing rather than hit rocks,” is their slogan, shared by their husbands. Their fatness does not irritate them. They live in harmony with themselves and the world. What if being overweight “doesn’t suit you”? Perhaps everything irritates you. You are infuriated by unceremonious people who claim your time, your care, and so on. You are so tired, dizzy, you feel like a milk cow or a sow that everyone is pulling at all the teats. “If you are being pulled, it means there is something for it,” said Cow in the words of one comedian. The only outlet is to drink tea and some candy in the evening... and not notice how half the refrigerator was eaten in one bite. It’s time to think about your own personal boundaries. You can’t hold it psychologically, but your body will help you. It becomes more and more, it is the body that surrounds you with an impenetrable shield. The more everyone “gets” you, the wider your waist. Protection. Here's how to lose weight here? He is needed! Until the psychological boundaries are “locked”. First, you should learn to say “no” not to sweets, but to those who tug and invade your life without your permission. Here are a few sketches from the personal unconscious of people who dared to take this journey. Some are in a dream, and some are in reality. Their experience may be useful to someone. I described one such experience in the article “Fat. A look from the inside." It says that in the human body, every insult “overgrown” with fat, as if being preserved. And as soon as the process of burning this fat began, the grievances were “unpacked”, and the emotional background went into such a deep negative that it was easier to leave everything as it was. Here are other stories for your attention: A girl on a strict diet dreamed of wolves. With burning eyes. Baring their teeth and growling. The girl did not feel any spiritual connection with the wolves; she ran away. But, not “with wolves”, like the author of the famous book. She was scared to the last degree. I woke up from my own scream. Animals in dreams usually embody the instinctive sphere of personality. It is worth “listening” to what they “say” or give to you in a dream. However, the girl ran away all the time, with animal fear. Her conscious conclusions were: ravenous hunger. She is always ravenously hungry. And she can only think about food even in her sleep. And in reality later, she remembered that her great-great-great... rather old relative, who died in her childhood, told her not a fairy tale, but a true story. About hunger. About several periods of hunger that she experienced. About how they carried “goods” on sleighs from the city to the village, through the forest, to exchange for food. And how wolves were chasing them through the winter forest on the way back. With burning eyes. With fangs. How scary it was. The girl remembered how her great-great-grandmother treated food. With what trepidation, considering it the main treasure captured from the wolves. I remembered myself as a student, when “hungry students” recklessly bought mascara and lipstick, denying themselves delicacies, being content with bread and jam. I noticed that now she doesn’t act like that, on the contrary, that “quivering” feeling has appeared towards food, just like..... well, you understand. It is easier to work with a problem brought to the level of understanding. Factor of. Do you agree? Another story. A man who has “lost” his roots. This is how it happens, he doesn’t know a single grave of his family. All are relatives or alive, and those who are not have unknown graves. In his immersion, he sees fragments of the ritual. Find out on the Internet what it looks like. He thinks he has found the answer, since in India to this day there is a ritual of “feeding the ancestors.” He's planning to go there. In February. She started losing weight in January. The girl eats a lot for future use, and only when no one sees her. When she's alone. She can’t eat at the holiday table, she says that “a piece doesn’t go down my throat, I don’t want to.” And he doesn’t feel the pangs of hunger. She has fun, treats the guests, but when she sees them off... that’s when gluttony begins. When her husband or children are at home, she feeds them. But he can only sit with them, and then eats. Herself. One. So that no one can see. There was no dreaming, no immersion. Possible reason if you look for it in!