“I won’t start a relationship until the children grow up!” Life turns out differently. In our country there is a large number of divorces, which means there are many single mothers. And sometimes we hear the following strategy from them - until my children grow up, I will not bring a man into the house, I will live for the sake of the children, and I do not need a relationship. And this is said, of course, with good intentions, but such a life strategy does not always lead to good. Why? 1. As a child, a child looks at the relationship between mom and dad, and in the future for him this becomes a kind of example of what a family should look like. When there is no dad, and only one mother remains, and this mother, on principle, does not enter into a new marriage, although maybe she would like this, this is not always good, because the child is then deprived of an example of a family model. What kind of man and in what way a woman “brings” into the house is, of course, another conversation. 2. A child (especially a girl) may have problems in his personal life in the future. This point follows from the previous one. When a girl sees that her mother is alone, that she is like a locomotive in the family, pulling everything and everyone along with her, then in the future this may manifest itself in the fact that in a relationship with her partner she will also take on everything and be the same kind of draft horse. 3. A mother who puts her life on the altar of raising her children is a ticking time bomb. The child and his psyche will only be harmed by the image of a mother who has placed all her hopes, all her dreams only on the lives of her children. A child needs a mentally healthy and balanced mother nearby. What if suddenly Vasya decides to quit football, and you’ve given up your whole life on this, so many years, so much money... And how to survive this? 4. Also a point that follows from the previous one, concerning boys. If a single mother has a son, she may unconsciously begin to turn him into her husband. Entrust him with the functions of your husband in the future (except for intimate ones, of course). Her son provides for her, lives with her, and watches her bed every night if she is sick. But why should the son take this blow upon himself?... This is a complex and very sensitive topic. And starting a new relationship when you have small children is not easy. But despite this, it is important, taking into account all the subtleties of this topic, to remember about yourself and your needs. What do you think about this??