Every person in his life strives for three things (probably this is banal, but they should be indicated as often as possible): - the first is for the Person to be happy (including healthy, rich and etc.), - second - for a person to be in harmony with himself (which I constantly write about and do for everyone (reading my sketches); - and third - this is marriage (perfect) and in marriage - children, i.e. our continuation in life: our stronghold, our aspiration and our present (care, work, concern for the future of our children). While children are small, it seems there are no happier moments - you caress them, hold them in your hands, kiss them... - this is the harmony of the feelings of the elder with our small and defenseless lump... -our youngest member of the family. But a little time has passed - the child meaningfully looks at the toy, holds a spoon, stands on his feet - he goes to explore the world... and we are already secondary... Yes, before. For 4 months we are needed as the first confessors, and then the child is already taken by the spirit of knowledge and its improvement in his Soul. You keep in touch with a small child and feel that his Soul is growing faster because of the thirst for knowledge... every day. And just as we instill our spirituality in our child (it’s not for nothing that they say, with mother’s milk)... so we will then reap the benefits... for ourselves, our family and society.. There is a worthy proverb - “little children are little troubles.” "I don’t want to touch on the topic of childhood and adolescence of children (from 7-17 years old), although this is a capacious topic, it needs to be discussed separately in subtopics - (long and thoroughly), I want to touch on relationships with children when they are 18 years old and higher... Probably for every “mature” parent it is most clear and understandable - children are already adults, they have their own experience (spiritual, everyday, social, sexual) where they made a certain conclusion for themselves on how to act and live further.. But now many children who have been in the society of their parents and family for a long time, but have had little exposure to life “outside the window”, can dramatically change their attitude towards us, parents, because in conversations with friends (with communication on the street, at school) another experience passes to them, i.e. they themselves don’t know him yet, but imagine him as if from the words of other people... - and this other people’s experience, from the words of friends, “fills” their heads... You can also consider this situation - a guy is interested in a girl... They suit her bridesmaids in the guy’s family (family), and the girl doesn’t pass them... she’s from another family... she has her own principles and she kind of “bewitches” your son.. - the son breaks away from his family, tries to be independent - decides to live with this girl in a civil marriage... and how do you think she is “putting a collar” on her neck... How not to lose your temper in such a situation, not to lose the stamina and peace of mind of your parents??? ...and move the child away from the edge of “moral and spiritual” wanderings?!!! Your experience and composure, your prudence and trust in your child, freedom (namely, let him choose for himself..) can help you in this matter - ONLY YOU YOURSELF (PARENTS) CAN TURN THE SITUATION IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION. Don’t “put pressure” on your son (daughter) if they have made a choice that, as you think, is not your “equal”, better try to create an opportunity for them to live together for a while (I don’t like these “trial” marriages, ,, but let them live, I’m writing all this from my experience. Since your life experience is richer, brighter and wiser, try to present all your observations of the lives of children to your child in an accessible form - explain what is wrong with him. half (if you see and the child, trusting you, speaks about it)... how to correct this situation in a positive direction and get some kind of result of their life together. There must be a result (positive or negative), akin to the result... Let it happen. your son (daughter) will paint you their picture - you will paint yours...here the opinions may be diametrically opposite or parallel, but together analyze everything to the smallest detail...don’t pass by: share both joys and sorrows with your children (even if you are an adult) .Just help with your energy of action to “clear” the path for your child on the path of life... Edit!!!