Why do you, why - my soul of a Spartan child? "Marina Tsvetaeva Today I want to talk not specifically about Marina Tsvetaeva’s love for women, but about the love that sometimes arises between a female psychologist and her clients. A banal transference (and sometimes a countertransference), but it always creates something special, emotionally a painted space in which you can and should work. It is rich in nuances, shades of feelings, assumes maximum freedom of expression, and often gives very significant results in therapy. And in principle, there is no need to be afraid of mutual sympathy that arises between two people, unless it gradually flows into the conscious receipt of masochistic pleasure from an unrequited love. But this most often happens, in this the dependent person sees the special charm and beauty of the relationship. I often remember a characteristic and visible example of transference “in bloom”: a girl on the forum wrote how, after finishing therapy, she walks in the evenings and stands for a long time and looks out the window where her psychologist-lady works. Of course, all the moments of mutual transfers between the specialist and the client needs to be spoken and discussed. These dialogues will benefit therapy, unless, of course, the psychologist (and sometimes the client) considers further communication unacceptable for themselves when the line has been passed and personal boundaries have become soluble. Then communication stops, but most often formally, as long conversations continue in the head, and many actions, thoughts and state still depend on the important person in life. In general, there is no need to be afraid of such a turn of events, this is experience, and also part of life. The main thing is to try, if possible, to take a constructive look at the situation and yourself in it. But not everyone succeeds in this, because many are attracted precisely by “the hand to which the whip would go.” Thus, unconsciously, again and again, a trauma is constructed, from which you should not run away from therapy, but try to live it - at least “at random.” Therapy based on transference is a very effective method, but the psychologist must be well-developed. To be ready to take on and let through all the delights of such a “therapeutic game”, and at the same time not get into trouble yourself and not fall under its charm. *a selection of articles about various psychotypes in relationships© Bogdanova Anzhelika, 2023 Problems in relationships, working with the authors , promotion, texts to order 9103664555 Zen Channel Book "Blogotherapy" I recommend a specialist: Martynyuk Galina Valerievna Psychologist