Start in the articles: Adult children of alcoholics 1-48 Read them in the selection Adult children of alcoholics and other difficult parents Part three. At work: self-sabotage syndrome. Chapter 14 VDAU VDA there are no preferences in choosing a profession. Below, examples will show that regardless of the chosen profession, the qualities inherent in the ACA come to the fore in work. ACAs seem to induce stress even if their position did not originally suggest this. ACA Priest. A religious community can also be a place where ACA works. There, ACAs experience the same problems as elsewhere, as well as specific difficulties. Some elements of priestly training seem detrimental to ACA unless taken critically. For example: 1. You must serve others. 2. You must be everything to everyone. 3. Service to others is the true reward. 4. The needs of the community must be for you. higher than personal needs. 5. You must constantly improve to become even better. The ACA priest has little or no awareness of his own needs. Due to his profession, it is difficult for him to separate his life from his work; his work is his life. VDA is generally accustomed to putting others first, not himself. By training to be a priest, ACAs receive the theological foundation to do so as diligently as possible. It is difficult for an ACA priest to come to therapy, even in cases of obvious need. Psychotherapy is about meeting one’s own needs, and this is contrary to what he was taught. There are typical reactions of an ACA priest to criticism. The first is approximately the same as for all ACAs - he perceives criticism as confirmation that he is a bad person. Another reaction relates to religious vocation. If you are criticized as a priest, it means you are serving poorly, that is, you are questioning God. ACAs think: I am a bad priest, an impostor in religion, I don’t help anyone. Even working in the community, ACAs feel lonely. Moreover, if a priest is celibate, he does not have a partner to whom he can open up, which makes life difficult for the ACA. Are you a “helping professional” and something seems familiar to you? Call 8-921-919-85-59, I work in person and online