Living “here and now”, fully experiencing the present, is not the same as “living one day at a time”, it is also the ability to notice reminders - in the present - of past lessons. Fritz Perls. Very often we perform various actions and actions unconsciously, thoughtlessly, at the first impulse. And then we wonder why there is no expected satisfaction. Life itself (the world, society, other people) cannot be changed - the world existed before you, society will get along just fine without you, and people have their own will in order not to allow something - then do with them. If we take something, we have to give something back. All we have to do is change ourselves - learn to enjoy life, cope with difficulties and solve problems, fully experience everything, including negative feelings, so that in the end we can have what we really want. Although it may well turn out that we still do not quite know what exactly is needed. Often behind one desire lies a completely different one. And this other thing can be satisfied in a variety of ways, some of which may not even have occurred to you. Do you know what you really dream about? From birth, a person masters the ability to sensory perceive the world around him. In the future, he relies on his strengths, knowledge and skills when solving problems in various areas of life, and becomes more and more independent from other people. However, for many people this ability is impaired, so it is difficult for them to adapt to the constantly changing conditions of life and communication and to obtain everything they need for themselves and their development. If a woman truly believes that money is everything, then she probably has to work hard to pay for her desires. If a person wants to get rid of “bad” feelings, he blocks the experience of feelings in general, since there is only one way to give up negative experiences: to reduce sensitivity and receptivity. Most likely, such a person is not able to experience bright feelings. And his life is a continuous series of gray days. If a person strives to get rid of contacts, this is how it will be: without giving anything to others, he himself will not receive anything. He will be left alone, depriving himself of food for feelings and sensations - the basis for the fullness of life. Life is empty when there is no food for the life of the body - emotional, social, psychological, sensual. If a girl considers herself ideal, it is difficult for her to find a suitable partner, since she will look for flaws in everyone. And the drama of her script is that there is no one to appreciate her uniqueness and splendor - she is alone. A woman who is dissatisfied with herself in everything because she wants to be perfect, dooms herself to an extremely troublesome life, because it is very difficult to be perfect in several roles at once. Her scenario is “a lot of trouble, no one appreciates her, no one thanks her.” The result is fatigue, apathy, bitterness. Personal history, the chain of events that led you to today, is what shapes your every day. The natural human reaction is to immediately become defensive, trying to justify our actions. It invariably leads us into the trap of strengthening our view of the world, so that we only become more bogged down in the conditions we seek to change. Can you notice this in yourself?