Types of mommies: 1) “lazy” mom. Such a mother does something for the child only in case of emergency. Those. only when the child really can’t do it AT ALL BY HIMSELF. Due to age or inability. It’s “inappropriate” for her to do something for the child if he can do it himself, because she has a lot of worries of her own. In addition to household chores, she has work, she needs to have time to take care of her appearance and health, engage in self-education, sports, etc. For example, a child who is one year old cannot wash the dishes BY HIMSELF (although he can quite easily move a rag around a plate - both joy and benefit), prepare food up to 6-7 years old (but ready-made food in the microwave - hurray for the 21st century - children can do it from 2-3 years old - under the supervision of an adult, of course), iron clothes up to 10-12 years old (not synthetic a blouse, but at least a child can learn to iron a sheet under control from the age of 6-7), take care of his health (dress according to the weather, drink warm milk with honey at the onset of a sore throat) until the age of 10, etc. It is easier for such a mother to teach child, than in 10-15-20 years to blame the child for his “ungratefulness”, “lack of independence” and “laziness”, as will be done..2) a “hyperactive” mother. This is the kind of mother who manages to do EVERYTHING AT ONCE. And she runs to kindergarten with toys, she will stand over him by the sandbox for safety (he gets dirty, gets hit, gets hit!), and she runs through all the circles with the child by the hand, and until the age of 10-15 she will bathe the child herself (he can’t wash off the shampoo normally), and he will cut his nails at the same age, and he will run from work (he has to prepare food!!!) and he won’t get tired of spoon-feeding until school (he needs to save his strength! He’s tired!) and in He will keep his things in his locker until he is old (and his own too) and will do his homework, and find a job, and a girl (boyfriend) (although there is no need for competition here!)... And “oh my God” the child will resist! How can he! How can he turn from a dandelion into a monster! Not allowed! Mom is trying SO hard! Does everything! Everything is going well! Just not for myself. Not like...3) mom is a “flower”. How vulnerable she is, this mother. She cannot (does not want, does not know how) to take care of the child, because she herself needs care. Did you crap yourself? So what? I'm actually talking on the phone here! (I’m discussing with a friend how clueless my husband is! And my child is incompetent!) Can’t distinguish colors at 3 years old? not talking? What are you speaking about? The series didn't load for me! I caught the virus again while I was playing on the farm! That's the problem! Does he still need to go for a walk? Well, let him walk on his own. Yes, longer. I will rest! Stole a friend's phone at age 8? registered with the police department? did you end up in a colony at 12-14? This child is just like that! These are the genes of my great-great-grandfather on my husband’s side! Exactly! Well, let him disentangle himself now and sit on the neck of the state! Serves it right! Of course, these types of mothers are “exaggerated”. But the essence remains the same. Love your children! And don't forget that love is caring without sacrifice. Learn to love and teach it to your children!