“All the children in kindergarten get sick!” they said... Oh, these eternal “daughters and mothers.” The daughter mirrors something to her mother, but she doesn’t understand what. When a child gets sick, the mother’s ability to see something more clearly becomes clearer. I’m telling you in practice... That day when we crossed the threshold of the kindergarten, internally I already had a premonition of global internal changes in connection with our “parting” (separation) with my daughter. I was ready for them and they didn’t keep me waiting. “All the children are sick in the garden!” they said! But I was once again convinced that the garden, as such, has nothing to do with it! The reason is mom! How does she feel and what is happening to her! And not in walks in the cold and viruses wandering in the group! These are false reasons that have no relation to the true essence! A week before going on a family vacation, an incident occurred that, as it later turned out, caused an illness with a high fever! My daughter cried a lot AT THE ENTRANCE to the garden, and 1.5 hours of being held in my arms with persuasion, hugs and sobs led to nothing. I made 2 attempts to leave, but returned, and made a choice not in favor of myself and my interests, but in favor of her interests. I picked her up from the kindergarten that day and I had to cancel all my plans and I was even proud for the first 15 minutes of what a good mother I was. I simply didn’t notice or feel the internal aggression that I pushed myself, my plans and interests aside! There was some kind of dissatisfaction, but I didn’t even want to admit it to myself... The child was still healthy. But the next day she was counting on the same thing, that I would choose her, but I could no longer do this, there was work, and I didn’t want to... I didn’t give up this time at the entrance to the garden, I hugged my daughter tightly and left, hearing behind her tears, screams and pleas to take her home from there! But I didn’t take it! And the very next day in the evening, my husband and I observed the child’s cough, runny nose and high temperature 🤒 And, naturally, the first thing I did was analyze everything that preceded it. I began to analyze not the garden, not the teachers, not the temperature changes outside and in the building, not the possible snotty virus children around. I began to analyze myself! And I came across an avalanche of my own anger towards my daughter. In my distorted reality - on that day when she really didn’t want to go to the garden - she was the culprit of everything that happened, because it was she who forced me to move all my affairs and plans! 🥴I had to be a “good mom” against my interests, for her sake!🙀And I was angry with her for this and, of course, blamed myself at the same time, because, in fact, only an adult makes such decisions, not a child... Neither a child what is not to blame! Why did the disease act as a “helper” here? The child gets sick, firstly, in order to show the mother that something is happening to her that she does not see or hear in herself! (the anger that I didn’t see at the beginning, when I chose her and betrayed myself). And secondly, to “help” my mother make a choice at last - to gain a foothold in the role of a slave, to come to terms with the fact that she will never be number 1 again in her life, but will be only a executor or not a executor of her child’s desires! Or, after all, the mother will learn to choose herself, say “no”, defend her rights, respect herself and her time, will not be afraid of being “bad”, and sometimes even “ very bad” in someone’s eyes, in general, she will become healthy))) And what do you think, I made this choice without thinking, but only when my psychologist opened my eyes to this after an urgent consultation!❤After all, I myself, as a mother, I wouldn’t go to such depth because these things are very hidden. The psyche refuses to see this on its own! My daughter recovered and we flew off to rest, we got nervous during those days, of course, it was scary! Again psychology helped us reach very important things