Unfortunately, the problem of separation of married couples in Russian society is still relevant. Lately, married couples often turn to counseling in need of help. Some of them are already divorced, while others are thinking about it but have doubts. There are quite a lot of requests for help, How to live? and What to do? Why does the desire to divorce arise? Why is it easier for married couples to stop progress in family DEVELOPMENT? Why is the set goal of a good start to the family being destroyed? Why does the BIRTH of CHILDREN that has already occurred not stop parents who deprive their children of the happiness of being with their parents and in a complete family? It is necessary to say, it is clear to us as specialist psychologists THAT there are enough reasons for this! Most of them can be solved if you consult a psychologist in time. Think through the STRATEGY of YOUR FAMILY LIFE in advance and gain knowledge about creating a family and living in it. Today there is an opportunity: Get advice from a psychologist and help from specialists before getting married; Read a lot of accessible and interesting literature; Study information on the Internet and analyze it. In the 80s, when psychologists began to appear in society. At the same time, the school introduced a course on “Ethics and Psychology of Family Relations.” Unfortunately, today this course is not available at the school. Many colleagues will agree that at present it is more than necessary. The questions that were solved in this course helped to find the answer to the following questions: 1. What is important for a young married couple to know about starting a family? 2. How to develop the ability to live in a family team? 3. What is the union of a woman and a man? 4. What is spirituality in family life? 5. When does readiness arise to start a family?6. What is physical and social maturity?7. What is ethical and psychological readiness to be and become a family?8 What is social and psychological, sexual, family and everyday compatibility?9. What is conflict in the family and how to overcome it?10 What is family divorce and what are its consequences? There are still many questions to which you need to know the answer. They need to be worked out with a psychologist before, and not just after, problems have arisen. Scientific and practical approaches to solving family problems have been developed. You can work with child-parent problems, adjust and shape communication in the family, conflict situations, etc. A good family is not created in one day, it is formed gradually. A lot of work of the SOUL is put into this creation. The basis is the preparation of people who want to become husband and wife before marriage. Life in the first days, after official registration, gradually begins to be realized that a new period of life together has begun. In married life, there is a combined development and change in a person’s personality, filling with new content and a deep understanding that habitual actions can be different from the person who is nearby. Gradually, a realistic realization occurs that there is love, friendship, the ability to be attentive to each other or not. Before meeting their spouse, everyone created their own destiny, shaped their behavior, and has their own experience of life and thinking to solve some life problems. In family life, destinies merge in social space, in bodily and sensory sensation, in organizing their space separately and at the same time together. There are TWO POWERFUL FORCES for the union of a strong family team: LOVE, as a unification of natural and social principles; FRIENDLY WORK - SPIRITUAL and PHYSICAL. SUCCESS in family life is possible in the ABILITY to integrate and adapt to the new: the search for adaptation to each other, the search for common values, reasonable tolerance, responsibilities to each other and children, compliance. There is a wise, folk parable: In ancient times There lived an amazing family. It consisted of 100 people. LADY, LOVE, RESPECT reigned in her. The fame of this family reached the emperor himself. And he visited her. Making sure that the rumor did not exaggerate anything, the emperor asked.