What do children most often see in families? It’s right how mom tries to do everything herself (without dad), although she is very tired. She cooked, fed, cleaned, washed the dishes, did homework with the children, then put them to bed, and in the morning the beautiful woman went to work, at the same time taking the children to kindergartens and schools. This example of a mother shows girls: when you have done everything, you are tired, but If you look good then you’ll do great! Although... you can always do better! How can such a mother’s scenario affect her daughter’s future? Most likely, she will repeat it, believing that this is how it should be, that everyone lives this way and this is normal. A feeling of discomfort, anger from the inability to change everything here and now, fatigue and an attitude of obligation are life companions “for everyone except yourself.” You owe it to your husband, you owe it to your children, but you don’t owe it to yourself... This is not what you want for your child, is it? Boys, looking at their mother, learn that a woman manages everything, looks good, sometimes for some reason grumbles or even screams, but then calms down. Everything becomes normal, so there is no need to help. Her fatigue is devalued. No, not because “children are evil,” but simply because they do not understand what is really happening. They are not told about this in a way that they would understand. And screams and complaints more often make you want to hide and distance yourself than to help. How can such a mother’s scenario affect her son’s future? Problems in family life, a grumpy wife, tense relationships at home, lack of happiness or its short duration, reluctance to develop, improve the quality of one’s life and the life of the family. Or maybe it’s the other way around: the boy will take the mother’s script, and the daughter will take the father’s script. Whichever manner of behavior is closer to the child’s psychological nature, he will take it. And such a scenario can also give children: - lack of self-worth; - uncertainty, weak character; - inability to defend their interests; - inability to follow their desires; - devaluation of their achievements. If you live according to this scenario and you are okay with it, then don’t change anything. And if NOT Okay, then change it immediately. But how can mom get out of the “do it all by herself” scenario? 1. Tell yourself “I can”: rest when you’re tired, take a walk alone, buy something for yourself first, set aside time for self-care, take a day off and do nothing. Yes, you CAN!!!2. Recognize - “I am worthy”: worthy of care, support, affection, protection. You deserve all this, because you were deprived of it for so long.3. Contact a psychologist to stop this scenario once and for all and not pass it on to your children. And live happily, no longer saying those terrible words “That’s how everyone lives.” You deserve more and better! Good luck to you and REMEMBER - you can always contact me via l/s.