If you are faced with neurosis, then there is a high probability that you will have regular drawdowns in your internal resource. Your energy will periodically go to zero and there may be a feeling that you have no strength for anything. What is this connected with? If there is not enough somewhere, it means you are spending too much somewhere. The vast majority of neurotic reactions suggest that you are actively spending your power where there is no point in it. Whether you inflate your negative expectations, become resentful, control too much, or, for example, avoid something, every neurotic reaction involves excess emotional stress. That is, you waste your energy out of the blue, even when nothing criminal happens in your life. The peculiarity of such expenditures of effort is that you trigger them automatically, since you are already accustomed to reacting this way and you cannot simply stop reacting the way a neurotic does. Costs can be conscious. The second category of costs of a neurotic is volitional costs. Any person spends energy on making volitional efforts. And the more you want to achieve, the more often you have to use willpower. But! The will of a neurotic is spent primarily not on achieving success, but on behaving in accordance with social standards, norms and rules. A neurotic strives to be good in the eyes of others, not to be bad, to be fair, to be worthy, respected, and... This list can sometimes reach hundreds of positions. And include a variety of areas of life. And when the neurotic is seen by others and when the neurotic sees only himself. Internal prohibitions on needs The third category of energy costs, in fact, is not an expense, but a lack of income. And the whole point is that neuroticism presupposes a certain degree of closedness in terms of an open style of realizing one’s needs. It can be difficult for a neurotic person to allow himself to openly ask for what he wants or even urgently needs. And here both internal restrictions and obligations interfere, as well as the banal lack of skills to directly realize one’s current needs. As a result, we get a situation in which it is simply difficult for a neurotic to restore his strength, since we feel the most strength precisely when we regularly and fully realize our desires. And which item of energy expenditure (out of the three described) does it happen to you more often??