Without a doubt, many people, even educated people who have achieved a lot in life, are often upset by their own self-esteem. Why? - Because it’s bad. Because it doesn’t allow you to live and rejoice. But aren't we the ones who allow our self-esteem to be bad? How do we generally evaluate ourselves and on what basis do we draw conclusions? Let’s take things in order. To begin with, let’s determine what kind of self-esteem we have, and such diagnostics should be professional and based on proven methods; tests from a women’s magazine or entertainment Internet sites very rarely refer to the sources from which a particular test was taken. Therefore, it is impossible to judge its quality. I have posted a professional self-assessment test here: http://www.refleksia.ru/diagnostika_samoozenki Self-testing, even using a professional method, is not yet a diagnosis and you should treat the results with caution. For professional diagnostics, contact professionals. When characterizing self-esteem, first of all, you need to focus on such a property as adequacy. Adequacy is always checked against the real situation, the real state of affairs. For example, Vasily, for friends Petrovich, 41 years old, Muscovite, he has no education, no job, no family of his own, except for his old mother, no home of his own, no car either. Drinks. He has achieved absolutely nothing, and at the same time considers himself a wonderful, great and worthy man, and claims: “Whatever, I’ll soon get a millionaire.” And that he still has everything ahead. As you probably guessed, this is clearly inadequate self-esteem. In this situation, suppose that Petrovich believed that he was a rather worthless element of society and could achieve much more, considered himself unsuccessful and wasting his time. In this case, his self-esteem would be adequate. And not at all underestimated. Let's take another case, Maria, 32 years old, two degrees, husband, two children, three-room apartment in Moscow, dacha, head of the financial department. She considers herself a rather worthless element of society and believes that she could achieve much more, considers herself unsuccessful and wasting her time. Maria's self-esteem is inadequate and low. From these simple examples it is clear how important it is to have a self-esteem that is adequate to reality. If a person is aware of reality, then he can act to change himself or the world. If he is in the illusory world, then until he comes out of there, nothing will change. So, how to form a “good”, productive self-esteem? One of the ways to form correct self-esteem is training. Of course, the training is not a magic pill to magically transform into a person in 2 hours. But the training will help, firstly, to reveal “weak” areas, it will show what exactly needs to be worked on in further work on oneself. Secondly, the training gives tools for changes in relationships with others. If you apply them, changes will begin in your relationships with others and with yourself. And from this, self-esteem will gradually begin to increase. It’s just a process that takes more than one day. For some, just one thought out of a dozen ideas from the training will be a discovery, but this thought, like a seed, will turn out to be what was needed and will gradually sprout. And those who are already working on themselves will expand their toolkit in terms of techniques for building relationships with people. But self-development requires both time and willpower, so the issue cannot be resolved in one day. Positivity and self-confidence do not appear out of nowhere, but are developed through daily exercise. In fact, self-esteem exercises can be quite unusual and fun. For example, as a training task, walking around in a stupid hat or convincing someone else to stand on a chair instead of sitting, that is, these are some unusual things. In practical classes, we examine methods and situations that can help change one’s self-esteem in accordance with personality traits. But now you can try to change your self-esteem to become a more confident and successful person. Here are some ways.