The relationship with the father for a little girl is difficult to overestimate; they are very important and have a significant, I would say, decisive influence on the formation of femininity. In relationships with her father or close men (grandfathers, uncles), a girl develops an idea of ​​herself as a woman, of her femininity, of her feminine behavior. After all, dad, father (or the man who actually replaces him) is the first man in life little girl. Based on his image and relationships with him, we form a certain idea about men in general and about how and what kind of relationships with them to build in the future. If a father respects and loves a girl, he is not a “punishing authority”, but truly close, dear , a caring person, understanding and supportive, if he treats his wife the same way and conveys this to his children, then the process of developing femininity proceeds naturally, the girl’s understanding of her feminine essence grows, and an adequate model of behavior is formed, including between a man and a woman. But if, for example, the father constantly says that he would like to have a son instead of his daughter and pushes her away, if the father constantly humiliates and ridicules his daughter, insults her, if he treats the girl’s mother badly, if his behavior makes the girl ashamed of what he is her father, then there are some “distortions” in development. She unconsciously (and sometimes consciously) can accept a “male” model of behavior and broadcast this outward, probably in the same way that she will rebel and rush to various extremes, or take on the guise of an “undeservable and worthless creature.” And her relationships with people in general and with men in particular will not be easy in the future. There are a great many different similar options - after all, every relationship between father and daughter is unique in its own way. But really, if the relationship with the father was complicated and we have an already formed and established pattern of behavior and attitude towards ourselves and others, which does not make it easier, but complicates a woman's life, she is doomed to endure it and cannot change anything? Nothing like that! Changes even in things that have long been established and familiar to the psyche are possible at 20, 40 and 60 years old. And this path lies through awareness. Through awareness and acceptance of the fact that “we all come from childhood.” That yes, my father was not perfect (or not as I would have liked). That there is something wrong with my sense of myself as a woman, that my femininity is wounded. That I don’t live the way I would like. Often, such a confession to oneself is very emotionally loaded and can cause anger, rage, anger, tears, and resentment. This is wonderful, because our suppressed feelings do not go anywhere, they accumulate inside us and a lot of energy is spent on keeping them inside, and by allowing ourselves to express all this, we, figuratively speaking, empty this vessel, making room for joy and happiness .It is important to remember that, despite everything that happened to me in the past, I am able to manage my life, it is up to me to choose what kind of person I should be and what kind of relationship I should build with the world around me. It’s not easy, but the psyche is very flexible and capable of change at any age.