From the author: sexologist-psychotherapist, family psychologist. expert of television programs, member of the professional psychotherapeutic league, NLP master, best master, educational psychologist, specialist in the eastern version of neuroprogramming, specialist in personal well-being and family relationships, trainer, coach, esoteric psychotherapist. The author of more than 500 articles on a variety of problems, which you can see by looking at the *articles* section and, probably, this will already help solve your problem. The author of more than 100 training programs, as you can see by visiting my video channel on YouTube and typing “Afanasyeva Lilia” Every psychotherapist, sexologist or family psychologist working on female sexual problems of vaginismus, anorgasmia, etc. has its own achievements. We can solve many things, as if according to a template, which we use in our practice, but in any case, each psychotherapeutic session and work on male or female sexual problems is still unique, because behind it there is some kind of life of its own client and his personal history. And taking this into account, the sexologist, family psychologist or psychotherapist then develops individual sexual therapy. If we turn to girls with problems of vaginismus, then there is something that unites this category of female sexual difficulties. And this will, of course, be the fear of pain, what lies at the core, and if we eliminate this, then everything will sort itself out. And a girl who has not yet known the joy of sex and has not begun to have a sexual life will finally get the desired result. For example, my client from Moscow, who contacted me regarding female sexual problems of vaginismus and anorgasmia, also had her own personal story, or the story of her fears, with which I began to work as a sexologist and family psychologist. So, the first memory associated with fear of pain takes the client back to adolescence. Then she was diagnosed with mastitis, the girl was given drainage, there was pus and pain. The doctors scared her, and in the end it turned out that the pain itself was not as painful as the anticipation of it. We have now removed this memory. Everything was already in the past, not a trace remained of mastitis, and there was absolutely no need to keep this problematic memory to myself. The second difficulty underlying vaginismus was sex itself. “If the pain goes away, what will happen instead?” - These are the strange thoughts that the girl had, they also supported the secondary benefit of vaginismus and anorgasmia, preventing her from starting a full-fledged sexual life. I, as a sexologist and psychologist, helped formulate her sexual scenario, orienting my client from Moscow towards the manifestation of love, sensuality, and pleasure. And also, I, as the presenter of women’s training on sexuality, added to her the missing feminine qualities, equalizing sexual energy, and strengthening the desire to finally have sex. The next story of fear and vaginismus already related to the topic of friends who gave birth, and dealt with the painfulness of the process. And here vaginismus acted as a kind of defense against this situation. I worked on this topic separately; in principle, all experienced sexologists, psychotherapists and family psychologists have developed patterns in this regard. I also removed pain from the client, which was visualized in the form of knives. She was so sharp and strong, as it seemed to her, when her partner tried to enter the girl. It is probably worth noting that the partner has already become a husband, and has happily remained one for half a year, but has not yet entered into his sexual rights. Now the client noted that he himself was behaving somewhat timidly and not confidently. She never dreamed of such a wife. The girl thought that an experienced man would come to her virginity and teach her everything. But in fact it turned out that the man had her second, and his first partner was no longer a virgin. Therefore, when a sexual failure occurred, the partner fell into a kind of depression - apathy, and, probably,.